The truth is that people with vulvas experience orgasm mostly through clitoral stimulation rather than through vaginal penetration. If you find it difficult to reach an orgasm try clitoral stimulation before, during or after sexual intercourse or oral sex. Another critical step in becoming orgasmic with a partner is masturbation. After you discover what type of stimulation and touch offers you pleasure you can direct your sexual partner accordingly.
During sexual arousal the clitoris and the blood vessels in the pelvic area swell and this causes a feeling of fullness and sexual sensitivity. The clitoris can be stimulated in different ways (e.g. by rubbing, sucking or using a vibrator). Some people touch the clitoris in order to become aroused and others find direct touching painful and uncomfortable. Do not focus directly on the clitoris for a long time otherwise pleasurable sensations may disappear.
Oral sex is highly recommended if you want to reach an orgasm. Discover what tupe of oral stimulation offers you pleasure and remember that no approach works for everyone. Partners should learn about each other’s body and sexual preferences.
Clitoris can also be stimulated during vaginal penetration if it’s rubbed against the partner’s pubic bone. This can be easily achieved if the woman is on top. There’s a chance to experience orgasm without clitoral stimulation if the outer third of the vagina is stimulated with fingers, a vibrator or with vaginal intercourse.
Here are some tips that you and your partner should consider in order to reach an orgasm:
1) Experiment with various positions and find the one that offers the most pleasure. Positions that stimulate the clitoris are ideal. Oral sex can also offer enjoyable stimulation.
2) Relax and take your time. Good sex might not come overnight.
3) Pay attention to kissing, touching and caressing.
4) Discuss with your partner about how you want to be touched and what makes you feel good during a sexual intercourse.
Source: Brown University
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